Knowing what to say about a loved one who has passed away can be a challenge. These eulogies are meant to tell others about your relationship with deceased. It can be a tribute as well as a personal statement of grief.
We have found that while some people can do that in an impromptu manner, others prefer to prepare their comments. It’s important to know which category works best for you and then work from there. In all cases, the following ideas can prove helpful:
- Eulogies offer the speaker and those who are listening a focal point. Who was the person and what impact did he or she have on others?
- If representing a family, colleagues, or group of friends, include their select comments and memories, if appropriate.
- The memorable speeches have the ability to unite together those who are present for the final farewell.
- This may not be the time or the place to air the person’s misdeeds or to make judgements about their religious or political beliefs and attitudes.
- Most eulogies are no longer than approximately four minutes.
It is helpful to make sure your eulogy contains some, if not all, of the following:
- A brief introduction of you and your relationship to the deceased.
- Personal – humorous as well as poignant – that exemplify your relationship.
- Examples of how your loved one’s strengths and talents made him or her special and personal.
- Meaningful poetry or short prose.
We think it’s important to remember that writing and delivering a eulogy can be the perfect way to say goodbye. It is also a way to commemorate a loved one’s life; as a ‘testament’ it reveals to others how that person’s life mattered to you and to others.