Grief is a personal experience and your approach to it will have a great deal to do with your coping tools.
It is common, following a death, that you feel numb, maybe even empty. In some cases you might be in shock, feel disoriented, and even have trouble sleeping or eating.
Eventually those sensations will shift and in their place will be new feelings, such as sorrow, anger, guilt and fear. In some situations you may require extra time to adjust to your new situation. Going back to work, for example, may have to put off. Social outings may have to be rescheduled.
Many people are advised to not make any major life-changing decisions during the initial period of grief.
Over time you will again begin to breathe and feel more like your “normal” self. The grief may appear unexpectedly and fill you with longing and a sense of loss. It might be useful for you to seek professional counsel or guidance if you are overwhelmed.
Here are some guidelines to help you cope with your grief:
- Allow yourself to feel what you feel. You do not have to act upon any of them.
- You can decide when and where to express your grief and with whom.
- Let yourself be tired and forgetful in your everyday life. Grief can take up your attention.
- Eat well and take care of your body. Grief can be physically taxing.
When you take care of your grief, you are taking care of yourself.